Couples Therapy - Emotionally Focussed Therapy (EFT)
Written by our EFT therapist, Kelsey:
"Firstly, I always like to start by letting clients know that EFT is an evidence-based therapy with a high success rate that is based on attachment science. Research often demonstrates that key conflict in marital distress is insecurity of the bond. This chronic conflict is often a representation of loneliness and disconnection.
Therefore, in EFT we do not focus on power and control and negotiation skills, instead, we aim to create connection and a strong bond. Within a securely attached relationship, couples are able to feel safe, and have a strong emotional connection leading to better intimacy. We do this by taking apart a couple’s negative pattern of interaction. What does this mean? Think of it like a dance - have you ever noticed when you take one step in an argument your partners always seem
to take another, and it goes back and forth, often exhausting? Well, that’s your dance, or your negative interactional pattern. In EFT, we slow your dance down, we take this apart, and learn better ways of interacting. We eliminate blame, look at how you cope with fear and stress, and also how you reach out for connection in your relationship.
Working with an EFT therapist can be a part of any stage in your relationship; after betrayal, during conflict, or creating stronger resilience."
Book with Kelsey at kelsey@calmplace.ca
Couples Therapy - The Gottman Method
The Gottman Method is a world renowned and award winning-research-based approach to relationships. In your sessions with a trained couples and marriage therapist, you will begin with an in-depth assessment to evaluate the health of your relationship. You will have the opportunity to talk openly about difficult topics, unaddressed conflict, intimacy issues, infidelity, or ongoing issues affecting your relationship in a safe, non-judgemental space. We also offer individual relationship counselling, sex therapy, fertility, prenatal/pregnancy and postpartum counselling. What we discuss and explore in therapy is guided by your unique needs and goals. Together we will develop the best plan to help you build a thriving relationship.
If your relationship or marriage feels like it is at a breaking point and separation or divorce seems like the only option, take hope that we have helped many couples in St. John’s, NL and even couples across Canada (virtually) to repair and rebuild their relationship. For those who do choose to separate or divorce we can help you do so in the most civilized way possible. No matter where you fall on the continuum, together we will help you and your partner build a healthy relationship in which you feel loved, respected and valued.
Book with Challaina at challaina@calmplace.ca